As humans we are trying to evolve from our conservative mindset and try to be open and the openness and liberty wouldn’t come as smooth as butter it would take a lot of peoples cumulative struggle and a lot of failures to reach our dream world. This is an interview with an author I came across who is a person of Lgbtq community with the aim of bringing sensitivity and change.
Lilac: Q1. Generally most of the people self realise and become aware of who they are in high school ironically it is the time where they are forced to hide who they truly are since it’s not well accepted by the school system. How tough was it for you in your school? Was there anyone did you open up to? And do they see in you in a different light once you tell them so?
They: So for me, I would firstly say that I think it is not forced upon us if we want to hide it or not. We generally prefer hiding our sexual preference is because of the multiple reactions that would come in our way especially when we are not ready. For me it was not that tough for handling my sexual preference with people around. My best friends reacted in a positive way when I opened upto them, and hence I would not be facing any problem regarding it. Also since I was lucky enough to choose my friends in my style and according to my space, so they were really supportive when I came out to them..
Lilac: Q2. Most of the grown ups who supposedly know everything believe being a part of Lgbtq community is nothing much other than a phase or sometimes they use their wild imagination to declare that the people who are a part of it has something wrong with their mind. Did you ever come across such situation? How do you deal with it if yes?
They: Firstly it is a really nice question. I would say that I have never disagreed about my sexuality as and when I found my real self, but also yes It generally feels like a phase as to why am I liking the gender which I am not supposed to. For me I would say that I let the things to go easy with the flow and was able to discover myself
Q3. When a person comes out from the closet to us it means they have put an immense trust on us because it is hard than what it seems because of the watchful eyes. What is the best way to make them feel safe? What would be the best reaction and emotional support that could be given to them?
They: I think that we should feel lucky and be happier about the fact to be considered as a person whom a folk trusted immensely and was able to show their real self.
Lilac: Q4. What developments or changes do you wish to be made in the society for it to become the vision world to live in and a better future?
They: For having a better future, we need to normalize things. We need to break as many social norms as possible!!
Lilac: Q5. Are they any misconceptions or stereotypes that you ever had to face?
They: ughh! yesss, people are not afraid to ask if I am the top or bottom, or how will I have babies or they doubt if this is just a phase!!!!! I mean come on, I have wasted so many years of my life thinking of it as a phase, and now when I am sure of who I really am, then you are again trying to push me down in those years of exploration!!!!!!
(sorry got a little personal over here!!!)
Lilac : it’s totally fine it’s better to speak up than bottle in. I do hope people stop asking these at least after reading this.
Lilac: Q6. I believe that our mind gets shaped by our experiences we face and also by observing the events occurring around us. Children and a lot of people minds of various ages are driven into a direction of thoughts through television and internet. Sometimes it’s beneficial but there are times when portray some content for their gain and mislead the public. In the name of comedy they use trans people and gay elements but in reality I find it is pretty offensive. What are your thoughts on it?
They: yess! The whole point is not only to showcase the problems of the community, instead also to raise voce for them. I have seen ads and movies who use them as elements of pain and grief only!!! but the real reason of the pain is never ever specified.. They act to be neutral, which according to me is that a person who is neutral is always against, since that person doesn’t has any say for the community!
Lilac: Q7. As for the last question are they any changes do you wish for in the schools so people could understand and be open minded enough to not backlash for the people who came out?
They: For me, I would say that we can just try to give the best of our support. Because when the country’s laws itself does not supportts the community then how can we expect from schools. But if we go in a deeper sense, then ppl belonging to the community whether be out or not and the ppl who are allies should always call out on bullies who not only performs homophobic activities but also are a carrier of stereotypes which we need to break.
Thank you for sharing your views and answering the questions they are very well described.
As I couldn’t post anything in the starting of the pride month I decided to post an interview with a person who is a part of the pride community at the end of the month. I hope the interview served its purpose. Happy pride month!! One love❤️ ( also sorry if the interview is unprofessional, this is my first time and trying to learn to do better).